Deceased Information


    Lilly Gay

    Leah bas Chaim

  • AGE



    Monday, December 13, 2021 (Before Sunset)


    Tuesday, December 14, 2021


    3:00 PM




    Meeting ID: 881 9062 1639

    Passcode: 811221


    Shiva will be observed on December 14, 15, 16 at 7:00, at the home of Richard and Nanci Gay, 500 Cameron Manor Way, NW, Sandy Springs, Ga. 30328. In these unprecedented times, the family asks any who attend Shiva to be fully vaccinated, including a booster, and to wear a mask at all times. Those who wish to observe the Shiva services via Zoom may utilize the links below.

    Tuesday:, passcode Shiva


    Thursday:, passcode 5645

    500 Cameron Manor Way, NW, Sandy Springs, Ga. 30328


    • The Temple

      1589 Peachtree Street, Atlanta, GA 30309

    • ❖ Charity of One's Choice


    Lilly Gellhaar Gay passed away on December 13, 2021 at the age of 93 due to heart related issues.
    Lilly was born in Germany and moved to America at the age of ten with her parents Herbert and Paula Gellhaar, of blessed memory. Lilly met Jack Gay, of blessed memory, in NYC where they dated then she moved to Atlanta for their wedding and wonderful life together for the next 62 years. For over 40 years, she worked side by side with Jack in owning/running Gay’s Men’s Shop where she was both in sales and the store’s seamstress. Upon the closing of the store in 1990, Jack and Lilly travelled, spent time in Florida and enjoyed spending time with family and friends.
    Lilly will be remembered for four very special qualities: her giving nature, she never met a stranger and her love of family and friends.
    To illustrate her giving nature, Lilly, as a Meals on Wheels volunteer, delivered meals to the Jewish Home for thirty years.
    Lilly was an extremely friendly person. It was thought if she landed on Mars, she would have made friends in minutes. And, at several of her residences, she was asked to sit with the newly arrived residents acting as a lead contributor on the welcoming committee.
    Lilly handiwork is legend. Her projects include: needlepoint, crocheting and any other project that involved yarn. When completed, she gave most away as gifts, whether it was caps or baby blankets.
    As a dog lover, Lilly spent many years in the company of dachshunds, so in her loving memory, towels will be donated to the various animal shelters in and around Atlanta.
    She was a member of the Temple, the Atlanta Knitting Guild and was a season ticket holder of both the Atlanta Opera and Atlanta Ballet, getting the love of arts from her mother.
    Lilly is survived by her three children; Richard (and wife Nanci Gay), Sandy (and her husband of blessed memory, Milton Sarlin), and Cheryl (and husband Stan Shapiro).
    Grandchildren include Perrin Shapiro, Adam Shapiro, Mitsi Sarlin and Elana Sarlin.
    Lilly will be deeply missed by friends and family.
    There will be a graveside service open to the community at Crestlawn Cemetery, December 14, 2021, at 3:00 PM, conducted by Rabbi Brad Levenberg, Temple Sinai, Rabbi Peter Berg, The Temple and Rabbi Mark Zimmerman, Congregation Beth Shalom.
    The family requests that all those in attendance wear facemasks. Those unable to join in person, or those who prefer to do so, can view the stream of the funeral service by clicking here: insert Zoom link for funeral.
    The family will sit Shiva on December 14, 15, 16 at 7:00, at the home of Richard and Nanci Gay, 500 Cameron Manor Way, NW, Sandy Springs, Ga. 30328.
    In these unprecedented times, the family asks any who attend Shiva to be fully vaccinated, including a booster, and to wear a mask at all times. Those who wish to observe the Shiva services via Zoom may do so via link above.
    In lieu of flowers, memorials may be sent to The Temple, 1589 Peachtree Street, NE, 30309 or the charity of one’s choosing.

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  • The Dressler Family

    May the memories of our loved ones remain for a blessing.

  • Nancy Sachs

    Sandy, I’m so sorry to hear of your mom’s passing. I had no idea that your mom was such a colorful, talented, & giving woman. How wonderful she must have been. Thinking of you & your family. Nancy & Steve Sachs

    December 23, 2021 , 11:28 PM

  • Randi and Ed Strumlauf

    Cheryl and family, please accept our heartfelt condolences.

    December 19, 2021 , 11:53 AM

  • The Brooks Family

    We are truly sorry about our friend, Lilly, leaving us. We loved her and consider it a blessing to have known her. She will be missed by our family.

    December 17, 2021 , 02:22 AM

  • Amy Jampol

    I absolutely loved Lilly Gay! I know she will be missed by her family. May her memory be a blessing.

    December 16, 2021 , 08:54 PM

  • Jackie Garrett

    I will always remember beautiful Lilly. She was a joy to all the residents and staff alike as she delivered those countless meals.

    December 14, 2021 , 11:41 PM

  • margie glazer

    so very sorry about your loss, however now she is at you, Mommy

    December 14, 2021 , 07:30 PM

  • Anne Davis

    Lilly was a very special person with her smile, good cheer, and kind words. May her memory be a blessing and bring you comfort.

    December 14, 2021 , 07:12 PM

  • Christine Miller

    Love and prayers to you all. Lilly was beautiful and we all loved her at Historic Roswell Place

    December 14, 2021 , 04:41 AM

  • Martha Perlmutter

    So sorry to hear of Lily’s passing. She was such a lovely lady. I know she leaves everyone who knew her with very warm memories. She was so kind and caring. I’ll always remember her.

    December 14, 2021 , 03:07 AM

  • Pam Lowe

    Richard, I am sorry for your loss. May you find comfort from happy times, and may your mother's memory be for a blessing.

    December 14, 2021 , 02:14 AM

  • Rochelle Verner Lewis and Family

    Lilly was another mother to my brothers, Ron and David, and to me. My husband, Steve, also fell in love with her as soon as he met her! There was no other like Lilly. Her beauty, generous spirit and loving heart were second to none. The Verner kids and the Gay kids, all grew up together in simpler and perhaps, better times. There isn't a single happy moment or poignant family moment in our lives, that didn't have Lilly in the heart of it. We send condolences to all, but especially to Richard and his wife, Nanci. They held on to Lilly through all these times, happy and sad, and never abandoned her. Lilly was absolute love and she will be very missed. Love to all of Lilly's children, you'll always be in hearts and memories. Love, Ron and Jo An Verner, David Verner and Rochelle and Steve Lewis

    December 14, 2021 , 01:51 AM

  • Susan Proctor

    Alan and I are very sorry for your loss, Cheryl. We are thinking of you at this time.

    December 13, 2021 , 11:21 PM

  • sheila rotter

    Lily and I have spent many special moments in B'nai B'rith Women and at our weekly RummyQ games. It is my loss that we lost touch but I have always loved her so much. She was a wonderful person.

    December 13, 2021 , 10:13 PM

  • The Heidt/Epstein Family

    Dear Cheryl and Family, Our hearts go out to you and your family. Thinking of you and sending hugs. May her memory be for a blessing.

    December 13, 2021 , 09:07 PM

  • Betsy Cenker

    I am so sorry for your loss. I had a great appreciation for your mother and owed her thanks many times over. She was a special lady and a very close friend to my mother. May you be comforted by only good memories.

    December 13, 2021 , 09:04 PM

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